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Open Question: What should I do? My Husband is forcing me to do things I dont want?

Ok, so me and my husband have been together for 3 years. So hes a born again christian, and so have I, which only happened because I was with him, before I met him I was slightly agnostic, but when I was him i felt really happy and whne I told him about me being agnostic he said I should look into Christ and.. well thats pretty self explainotory. so anyways.. My husbands been more mean and aggressive lately.. he says that I should listen to him, and I should always trust him. he also says we should put our lord first, and thats what i have a problem with.. I want him to come first, but when I told him that he flipped and slapped me and left the room. So my question kinda is.. should i leave him? I know i shouldnt post this in here, but i got no answers in the single and dating thing. more

Resolved Question: Question for single conservatives....?

If you are single, do you find it extremely difficult or even impossible to find someone of the same faith and morals as you? Christian dating websites are a joke. Most of those people on there are NOT conservative Christians.There are no single men at my church. I used to go to the singles bible study, but to be honest,most of those people were "mentally" off or just looking for some action.I have two children (am divorced - was Biblical divorce) and I am also worried about all the pedophiles out there. It's hard to know who to believe and trust. Very scary. I know God will eventually bring someone to me because I do not have the gift of singleness like Paul did. more

Voting Question: I am in severe need of help...please...please help me.?

Cass Lyons was the first of many to replace me. To add insult to injury, not only did she replace me with a girl I completely hate, but Cass denied that she was replacing me, when she would hang out with this friend but not me, talk to this girl in class but not me, and just overall blew me off. The best part of it all? I found out Cass had been replaced by her best friend a year ago, and that she had felt the same way I did. But when i brought this up to her, she denied the two situations were alike and that I was being paranoid...******* hypocrite. Emily Palestino is just a *****. We got in a fight and to be honest I don't even remember what started the fight...but she's the bitchiest person I've ever met. I've tried to ignore her and forget this, but she'll randomly ***** at me when I'll have literally said nothing to her. I swear I am going to kill this girl...a part of me doesn't care about getting caught, so long as I watch her die and know I did it. And that's not even half of what's happened this past year. I went out with a girl named Niki Holzapfel for about...five ******* days before she dumped me. She had told me she thought we'd at least last a year... Cass said no matter how hard I pushed her away, she'd always come back. She never came back... Niki said we'd last a year, we didn't even last a week... Emily said she'd help me through my troubles, now she's my biggest trouble... Brain. Jenna. Olivia. Sara. Anny. All promised to stand by me, none followed through. Do you see now why I can't trust anyone?. These people sucked all the love out of me, and almost caused my physical death. Instead they caused a mental collapse. What can I say...I'm a stereotypical anime nerd. Completely akaward geek, obsessive, no friends, the whole nine yards. Give me a chance to talk about an anime, video game, or book I like and I could go on about every single tiny detail about it. I like any kind of rock, be it hard, soft, classic, new age. I absolutlely despise almost any other genre of music, though I do have some respect for pop. as far as rap, country, Christian, etc. go, I hate them all. I am the complete outcast of my family. My ENTIRE family is athletic, good looking, and normal, the total opposite of me. They tend to see anime and video games as pointless and feel my time is being wasted. I think the only reason they put up with it is because I have consistently good grades and my IQ is 127, 3 short of genius. Oh, and I like writing. A lot. I feel it's the best and most pain free method of releasing one's true form. the two girls I've dated dumped me after two days, and I've never even been kissed. I'm 15 and hideous in a world of beautiful people... more

Voting Question: I feel as though i have died, yet live because of the hate I feel...?

Cass Lyons was the first of many to replace me. To add insult to injury, not only did she replace me with a girl I completely hate, but Cass denied that she was replacing me, when she would hang out with this friend but not me, talk to this girl in class but not me, and just overall blew me off. The best part of it all? I found out Cass had been replaced by her best friend a year ago, and that she had felt the same way I did. But when i brought this up to her, she denied the two situations were alike and that I was being paranoid...******* hypocrite. Emily Palestino is just a *****. We got in a fight and to be honest I don't even remember what started the fight...but she's the bitchiest person I've ever met. I've tried to ignore her and forget this, but she'll randomly ***** at me when I'll have literally said nothing to her. I swear I am going to kill this girl...a part of me doesn't care about getting caught, so long as I watch her die and know I did it. And that's not even half of what's happened this past year. I went out with a girl named Niki Holzapfel for about...five ******* days before she dumped me. She had told me she thought we'd at least last a year... Cass said no matter how hard I pushed her away, she'd always come back. She never came back... Niki said we'd last a year, we didn't even last a week... Emily said she'd help me through my troubles, now she's my biggest trouble... Brain. Jenna. Olivia. Sara. Anny. All promised to stand by me, none followed through. Do you see now why I can't trust anyone?. These people sucked all the love out of me, and almost caused my physical death. Instead they caused a mental collapse. What can I say...I'm a stereotypical anime nerd. Completely akaward geek, obsessive, no friends, the whole nine yards. Give me a chance to talk about an anime, video game, or book I like and I could go on about every single tiny detail about it. I like any kind of rock, be it hard, soft, classic, new age. I absolutlely despise almost any other genre of music, though I do have some respect for pop. as far as rap, country, Christian, etc. go, I hate them all. I am the complete outcast of my family. My ENTIRE family is athletic, good looking, and normal, the total opposite of me. They tend to see anime and video games as pointless and feel my time is being wasted. I think the only reason they put up with it is because I have consistently good grades and my IQ is 127, 3 short of genius. Oh, and I like writing. A lot. I feel it's the best and most pain free method of releasing one's true form. the two girls I've dated dumped me after two days, and I've never even been kissed. I'm 15 and hideous in a world of beautiful people... more

Voting Question: My older brother says he's religious...?

so do you think he's having sex with his girlfriend? I also identify as a religious person, and it would be really disappointing if he was having sex with his girlfriend, whom he has been dating for 6 months. He is 22, and I am 19. I have had one girlfriend in my life, when I was 17, for a 3 month period, and we never had sex, and I will not have sex before marriage, as it is a sin to my Christian faith. We were raised by a single father, as our mom died, and he has always told us to not do it, and wait for marriage. more

Resolved Question: I think I hate my future Mother-in-law?!?!?!?

She's probably the most ghetto person you will ever meet. Last year, we had a family day party with my fiancee's family, and all she got me was a hair tie. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, a single hair tie. And she bought my fiancee some bars of soap and a pack of toilet paper. (STORE BRAND TOILET PAPER IF YOU WILL). She is very stingy. Once she was walking with her husband, and she PUSHED him away with her butt. I mean, come on! She claims to be a good Christian lady, and devotes her life to God, but doesn't God hate stingy people? She has a microwave right? A microwave that is older than her, and she HAS the money to buy all new appliances, but NO. She doesn't want to fork over the cash to live easier. All her appliances and T.V.s were from the like 1400s. Or that's what it looks like anyways. She lives in a rattyass apartment, that she pays only 400 bucks a month for, and she STILL complains about not having any money. I mean, I like her as a person, and I don't expect anything from her, and I don't care if I never get a present again. But the fact that she is just SO cheap... it irks the hell out of me. I can't believe that if I marry Jeremiah, I'm going to have to deal with this cheapskate for the rest of my life. I can't stand the thought of it. It's just...THE CHEAPNESS of her. I hate it, I hate it. Yea, I don't have much money at all either, but at least I live in a decent HOUSE, with a decent CAR, with decent APPLIANCES THAT ARE UP-TO-DATE!!!!!. It just makes me think, why are so people so ghetto and cheap like that? I mean, for Christs sake, this lady hasn't bought herself new clothes for 3 years. She likes her raggy shirts and sweatpants. Even to the most formal event out there, she would come in with messy hair, not an ounce of makeup, and with her holiday sweater and raggy sweatpants. She blames it on the fact that her mother has grown up in the depression, and she taught her how to live smart. Yeah, there's a difference between living SMART and living GHETTO. How would you deal with this situation.I meant at the part where they were walking...She was walking with her husband and he bent down to pick up a nickel, and she pushed him out of the way to get it before he could.haha, materialistic standards? I don't care if this bitch ever gives me anything again? you entirely missed the point of my problems. And yes skank, it IS my business, I'm going to be related to this ghetto tramp. more

Resolved Question: How do I move on from a failed engagement?

We had been together for almost five years, lived together for four, and I asked her to marry me in February. We didn't have the most healthy realtionship, but who does. I got lazy, and she did all the work around the house. Then she cheated on me with her best friend's husband when she went off her meds and got drunk, but I forgave her, or so I thought. I am a Christian and I decided to not have any more intercourse after she cheated on me until we got married. Then I stopped showing her affection and holding her hands and getting intimate all together. We continued to live together and it was just like we were roommates, but I was comfy and she never gave me any LARGE warning signs that it was over. I didn't ever think this would happen, and I took her for granted and that kills me because I gave effort too little too late. You don't know what you've got til it's gone, but I want it back. We both have substance abuse problems and manic depression, so when we'd fight I would say we were a ticking time bomb, but I always thought all of the thousands of things we had in common and our strong bond would get us through with faith and prayer and help from counselors and friends and family. Hindsight is 20-20, but I cannot stop beating myself up for the simplest fix I just was too lazy and still held her mistake over her head, and she never got the affection she deserved, so she went somewhere else and now she is dating someone who I know, and he is a lot like me except it's new and he is showing her tons of affection but he's not a Christian. So in my mind right now I think that if I keep being super nice, and bring over the puppy we got and now I take care of, maybe she will realize what she lost in me. But it's been a month and longer probably that she has been intimate with another man and she is moving on, but I cannot. They want me to come over Christmas morning to open the family's presents, and I want to just because every moment I spend with her helps me to sleep at night. But I keep getting all kinds of advice like No Contact at all, and to help the mending process just don't text or anything. But that is unrealistic. I love her and she still loves me and tells me. I am 28, I work 40 hrs. and go to school part time. I don't want to date, I don't want to be single, I just want her back. But that is not going to happen any time soon at all. I have been practicing patience but is there any advice to move on? She still is so nice to me and still hasn't given back the ring and the apartment we lived in still has all of our stuff in it. I still have a glimmer of hope and she doesn't. I write that off every time though by saying she is depressed and has no hope in anything in the future, but she is dating someone else. I am assuming I am dating her too now, but I am not. We both moved back to our parents' house and I am going to concentrate on getting me healthy, but how do I stop hurting all the time? Please help. All advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance. more

Resolved Question: I am a 26 year old virgin.......?

I am 26, never kissed a guy and a virgin. I am not ashamed of this, but lets say I dont advertise this information. I am a christian and believe that sex is for marriage only and if a guy is interested in dating me he will approach me. People assume I think I'm beautiful and guys think I have someone before asking me. My question I am way single..... but guys do not believe I am because of my appearence. And all of these years guys only stare at me like a piece of meat and do not approach me why???? I desire to be married and very discouraged...... I am very social, I volunteer and active in the gym. Only stares no approach. And what topped it all this lady at my christmas party at work said to me, Sheri doe'snt need anyone to tell her she pretty, we all know guys tell her all the time. I am like little do you know about me. more

Resolved Question: Can you be gay and be a Christian? ?

I am a 27 year old female. I have grown up in since I was six years old in a southern baptist church. I was taught that being a lesbian was wrong and against the Bible. I am a christian. I have been saved and baptised. I love God with all my heart. However, I have a problem. I have known since I was 15 that I was not like every other girl. I had boyfriends, but I knew I just did not like guys. However, I had a huge crush on my bestfriend, who was female. As I got older, I realized I was not just some weird teenager. I knew I was a lesbian. With absolute certainty that God was going to send me to hell, I continued to date guys and I got married at 18. I got divorced after the relationship turned abusive. I have been married more than just that one time. I think I figured if I found the right guy I would be ok. (Which I know that divorce is also against the Bible so I begged for forgiveness there too.) After my last marriage, I developed a drinking problem. I was going to the bar every weekend and drinking until I no longer knew what I was doing. Then it turned to about 4 times a week. While drinking like a fish, I met a woman. Finally I said I had enough. I told my bestfriend I was gay. She didn't take it well but she didn't dessert me. I told my ex I was gay. He was very very supportive. I told my college roommate (I go to a Christian College) and she told me I was going to hell. I told my extremely southern baptist parents. My mother cried. She was worried about how I would be treated in the world. I didn't tell my father. She did. He never spoke of it. They didn't disown me. They didn't tell me I was going to hell. They still loved me. This woman and I had a rocky start but we had a relationship. I finally felt like I belonged. I met new friends and felt like me. Like a me I had never felt like before. But I stopped going to church. The southern baptist church I grew up in was totally against gays. They had heard I was dating a woman. So I didn't feel right going there. So I just stopped going. This woman and I ended our relationship and I dated another woman. She was amazing. The problem was yes I felt amazing but I was missing part of me. The spiritual part. I needed to be in church. I needed to feel close to God. On top of that, my father who was diagnosed with cancer was not sleeping, and was very weak. He was literally making himself sick worrying about me. After 2 years, I told my mom and everyone else that it was just a phast I was going through because of my failed relationships. I was not going to date woman anymore. I was not gay just frustrated with relationships. I cannot tell you the relief in my family and friends that were around before all this. I went back to church. I tried to date a couple of guys. I have made it to my last semester of school. I graduate in May. I start a graduate program in August. Both at the same christian university I have been going to. But everyday it gets harder. I am a lesbian. But the sad thing is that I can only say that to a bunch of people I don't know on yahoo under an anonymous name. I have basically chosen to be single. No men and no women. Just me and my dog. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go against the Bible. I don't want to completely upset my family again and start this whole cycle over. I just want to be happy. I don't understand how it can be against the Bible if I can't overcome it. I am daily praying for answers and strength. I just don't know what to do. Do I continue to try to live the straight and narrow? Do I just come out with it and risk destroying my father and my family? Do I live in secret until I move away in a year and a half? Any help would be appreciated. more

Resolved Question: What makes the version of the bible YOU use the "Right" version?

Today we still have dozens of Bible translation versions, with Bible scholars still arguing over the meaning and proper translations of words and phrases. The following shows just a few of the most popular versions: ( http://www.nobeliefs.com/DarkBible/darkbible2.htm ) King James Version (KJV) The New King James Version (NKJV) Modern King James Version [Green's Translation] (MKJV) Literal Translation Version [Green] (LITV) International Standard Version (ISV) The New International Version (NIV) English Standard Version (ESV) New English Bible (NEB) American Standard Version (ASV) New American Standard Bible (NASB) Revised Standard Version (RSV) New Revised Standard Version (NRSV) Contemporary English Version (CEV) Today's English Version (TEV) The Living Bible (LB) New Century Version (NC) New Life Version (NLV) New Living Translation (NLT) Young's Literal Translation (YLT) Revised Young's Literal Translation (RYLT) John Darby's New Translation Weymouth New Testament Translation Rotherham's (One might wonder what will happen to the "new" revisions a few hundred years from now. Nevertheless, the King James Version still remains the most used Bible in the world today and it will probably continue its popularity long into the future.) The HISTORY of the bible is so full of holes... The idea of the Bible as a single, sacred unalterable corpus of texts began in heresy and later extended and used by churchmen in their efforts to define orthodoxy. One of the Bible's most influential editors, Irenaeus of Lyon, decided that there should only exist four Gospels like the four zones of the world, the four winds, the four divisions of man's estate, and the four forms of the first living creatures - the lion of Mark, the calf of Luke, the man of Matthew, and the eagle of John. In a single stroke, Irenaeus had delineated the sacred book of the Christian church and left out the other Gospels. Irenaeus also wrote what Christianity did not include, and in this way Christianity became an orthodox faith. A work of Irenaeus, Against the Heresies, became the starting point for later inquisitions. There has existed over a hundred different versions of the Bible, written in most of the languages of the time including Greek, Hebrew and Latin. Some versions left out certain biblical stories and others contained added stories. The completed versions of the old and new testament probably got finished at around 200-300 C.E. although many disputed the authenticity of some books which later ended up as Apocrypha (uncanonical or of questionable authorship). For example, the book of Ecclesiasticus appears in the Catholic Bible but not in Protestant versions. At around 405 C.E. Jerome (Eusebius Hieronymous) finished translating all the Old and New testament books into Latin (Vulgate Bible) which provided the Roman Catholic church added power. The Vulgate Bible went through several revisions up until the early 1900s! The Old Testament consists of a body of literature spread over a period from approximately 1450 B.C.E. to 200 B.C.E. There exists no original writings of the Old Testament. There does exist, however, hundreds of fragments from copies that became the old testament. These fragments consist of Cuneiform tablets, papyrus paper, leather etchings and the famous Dead Sea Scrolls. The scribes of the old testament wrote in classical Hebrew except for some portions written in Aramaic. The traditional Hebrew scribes wrote the texts with consonants but the Rabbis later added vowels for verbal pronouncing. Of course the Rabbis did their best in choosing the vowels that they thought gave the words their proper meaning and pronouncement. In the second century C.E., or even earlier, the Rabbis compiled a text from manuscripts as had survived the destruction of Jerusalem in 70 C.E. and on this basis they established the traditional or Masoretic text, so called from the Hebrew word Massorah. This text incorporated the mistakes of generations of copyists, and in spite of the care bestowed on it, many errors of later copyists also found their way into it. The earliest surviving manuscripts of this text date from the ninth to eleventh centuries C.E. It comes mostly from these texts which religionists have used for the present Old Testament translations. The New Testament has even fewer surviving texts. Scholars think that not until years after Jesus' alleged death that its authors wrote the Gospels. There exists no evidence that the New Testament came from the purported original apostles or anyone else that had seen the alleged Jesus. Although the oldest surviving Christian texts came from Paul, he had never seen the earthly Jesus. There occurs nothing in Paul's letters that either hints at the existence of the Gospels or even of a need for such memoirs of Jesus Christ. The oldest copy of the New Testament yet found consists of a tiny fragment from the Gospel of John. Scholars more

Resolved Question: I would like religious and non-religious answers on this one?

Do you think it's wrong to date someone who has separated for a couple of years? I am being told that due to all the things you go through during a divorce if you have assets together it's just better to stay married and be separated until you meet someone else and want to get married to them so you don't have to go through all of that. I am being told that it's a sin to be with a married person whether they are separated or not based on the bible. I am being told that it is possible for people to be separated for years and not feel the need to get a divorce because they are comfortable in living like they are single. I am not sure what the real answer is, but I am staying away from a guy who I think may really be a good guy, because I know he is still legally married. I really want to get to know him, but by being a christian I feel it's wrong. I am not asking for permission cause I am able to do what I want to do I just want to know if anyone feels the same way I do. more

Voting Question: Are there any good men 38-49 wanting a 4 ever relationship left?

I am a divorced lady that is a Christian who is not into hanging out in bars and am having a hard time finding a good outgoing man that is seeking his forever lady. I am 40 and after being married for several years its been a while since I have been into the dating scene so I am struggling a bit on how to go about this. Any suggestions? I do go to church but it seem like most are couples and not singles.I think I am finding it hard because I was so abused in my past relationship It has given me that low self esteem. more

Resolved Question: How do I get over my ex-fiance?

We were together for almost five years, including living with her for almost four. We have so much in common and I never met anyone as cool as her. I asked her to marry me in February. She said yes. She went off her meds and got drunk and cheated on me with her best friends' husband in June. I forgave her. We went to counseling, decided to get a puppy, and then she recently moved back to her parents. Our counselor and us decided in late November, before Thanksgiving, to take a break from each other without dating. I found out she made out with some dude at least and read her phone records and she kept in contact with him for a month or so before. I am crushed, but I am still willing to forgive. She is done with me and she started hurting herself and all that. Please talk sense into me and get me past this mourning stage so I can move on with my life and get over her. In my mind right now I am still being super nice to her and she is talking to me still because of guilt and she feels bad but she has no hope for our future and I have been told over and over to move on and get the ring back and cut the ties and stuff. Easier said than done. I am 28 and a Christian and I have problems of my own which I am sure contributed to our demise, but I don't have any desire to be single and I want her just to be back with me so bad. What is wrong with me? I know it's comfort and I am used to her but what is the next step. I am going one day at a time and I cannot stop thinking about her telling me she still loves me but she is dating someone else and my mind takes that to another level every time. Make it Stop! Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance more

Resolved Question: Why is my mom is being so judgmental? She doesn't approve of my girlfriend?

So me and my girlfriend are both 18. We've been dating for a month now and I finally did the minimum and showed my mom a picture of her from her facebook profile. I'll introduce her in person one day, she just lives kinda far away. My family is from India and I was raised Hindu(even though I'm not at all religious) and my girlfriend and her family are white and Christian. My mom is extremely racist and picky. She always tells me: "marry whoever you want as long as they're not black and as long as you raise the kids hindu". Uhm.....no. So my mom wasn't happy about the whole idea of me having a girlfriend-especially because my girlfriend is of a completely different race and religion. As soon as she saw the pictures of my girlfriend, she immediately scowled and said "Ew she's ugly!". I was soooooo pissed off. I couldn't have been more offended. She didn't even take the whole conversation seriously-she never does. I couldn't believe she'd say something like that! I introduced my girlfriend to all of my friends and ALL of them said "Wow what a nice, BEAUTIFUL girl!". I honestly don't care what my mom thinks. I dont like my mom anyway. She's always been like this and even though I owe her alot for raising me single(my father abandoned my family when I was 5). it doesn't mean she can disrespect me like this. But how can she do this!?!?!? She talks like a child! Everywhere we go I NEED to make sure she doesnt say something that'll offend someone. She's just a sad, racist, and bitter old woman. My stepfather-who lives 1200 miles away in Texas-is at least very open minded and he couldn't be happier with my girlfriend. But you tell me, how could she call a girl like this(below) ugly? She's clearly beautiful. My mom just doesn't want to admit it. http://i518.photobucket.com/albums/u341/rugbyflankerboom/aa.jpg http://i518.photobucket.com/albums/u341/rugbyflankerboom/a-3.jpg Why is she being like this? I mean I'm her youngest son, but she still has my older brother. Not like I'm going to cut my mother out of my life-unless I have to. more

Resolved Question: Are there any really good inspirational songs like world by five for fighting?

you know, I don't even know what category that song is in. I have never been into music really, I am 13 and the only songs I know are the ones my friends are listening to on their ipods. Don't get me wrong, i'm not out of date at all. I know just about every song a teenager could possibly be into these days, and I hate almost all of them. I mean, I don't hate the writers, or mean to be disrespectful to them and those who like their music. I just don't like it. I don't like rap., I don't like bad words, I don't like the songs I listen to to have a single dirty word or thought in them. I also don't really like songs that don't mean anything. Songs that are just, shallow, I guess, you can say I am extremely picky. There are probably only 18 songs that are not christian songs that I would listen to. Ah, there you see it, the keyword, christian. Anyways, i just listened to world by five for fighting, and I really liked it, Are there any other songs that are like that? Clean, deep, and inspirational? more

Resolved Question: I like him, but how do I tell him...does he like me?

Ok, there is this one guy that is really amazing, and we flirt all the time at youth group and talk every single day in the band room in the morning. That is just the problem though, we can only meet in the band room b/c he is a sophomore and im in 7th grade. (Age 13 and 15) I really like him and we tell each other literally everything. There was a one time that I was so close to telling him that I liked him, but then he had to get offline. We talk on Yahoo Messenger about once a week and we talk for a few hours each time. Im just not sure how he feels about me though. I want to tell him, but I am not sure what to do. Any answers will be greatly appreciated. :D (Also, he is not like other guys, he is a very good Christian guy that would never hurt me or pressure me to do anything I dont want to do. My mom and dad also said that if he asked me out, then I could date him, so my parents do trust him.) Thanks! more

Resolved Question: Should I give up on finding that special someone?

I'm a 27 year old man who's never had a girlfriend. I'm decent looking with blonde curly hair and blue eyes, but not too tall. Throughout the years, I have tried numerous online dating sites with a few single dates - no connections though, speed dating a few times, Craigslist (mostly spammers on there though) and Elana' Models. I have no luck what so ever. My requirements aren't too demanding. All I want is a nice girl with Christian morals and values, a few common interests, a sense of humor and her not to have any children. I'm thinking of giving up on finding my "other half". What do you think I should do? more

Resolved Question: What is the real Mormon view on family and relationship generally? Any informed Mormon there?

I thought I would look into Mormonism despite the largely negative public misconceptions about it.... I am a student of theology who does not believe in dogmas of any kind. Experiences have taught me that the majority of people readily believe whatever sounds good and know actually very little about the historicity and theoretical/theological principles of their own religion or other religions. I recently encountered two Mormon missionaries (those serious-looking young guys in black you see almost everywhere) and I had a brief conversation with them. It seemed to me they are fairly reasonable polite people. And of course they invited me to study more with them. In my personal reading, I do find certain Mormon writings intellectually motivating and coinciding with some of my long-held personal speculations about spirituality... My habit is I would research to get all the information about something before I really take time out of my busy schedule for it.... I soon figured there is a lot of inaccurate smearing of Mormon doctrines among the public and thus I hope anyone here could give me a more accurate, objective explanation.... Since I am a single female in my 20s, I am particularly concerned if the general assumption about Mormon belief/practice on family is true.... I am not talking about the issue of polygamy among Mormons, which has already been effectively demystified by many people.... What I want to find out is how tolerant the Mormons really are towards singles like me who have absolutely no interest in dating and marriage issues. It's not because I uphold any puritanical beliefs when it comes to human sexuality, but I am just one of those peculiar individuals who are "assexual," who are just unable to feel attracted to anyone and as a positive result, I can focus more effectively on mental things..... I have always liked "testing the water" of those religious study circles. As I said, I am a student of theology and I study religion in an informed manner. I know many commonly held assumptions about Judeo-Christianity are just not true for no religion can be taken out of its socio-political context. One time I was actually thrown out of a fundamentalist Christian group as I frankly said there is no way I will buy that "women achieving grace and salvation only through marriage and husband" stuff. And if the Mormons are the same as those fundamentalists, I surely do not want to waste my time picking up another fight... So far in my life my most intellectually and spiritually fulfilling studies have always been in the company of Bahais, even though I still don't see Bahai-o-llah as a "prophet" in the way they see it.... Therefore I am just curious....  more

Resolved Question: If it's not true then why do they teach it?

if it's not true then why do Christian men and women (even the most godly single men with high self-control) teach girls and women that men take everything a girl or woman does to a man in a sexual way. Even an innocent hug or a pat on the shoulder. If it's not true then why do they teach this???? grr. Makes you want to not date and not kiss your boyfriend because he might think you want to get in his pants before marriage?  more

Resolved Question: Should I move out of my parents house? (long story)?

Hello, This might be a long story, but I really need some advice. First of all, I am 27 years old. I am a college graduate. I run my own photography business, and I don't make much money in the tiny town I live in. Second, I have been dating the same guy for 9 years. We have been remodeling his grandpas old house for 2 years. He is also broke, and we are nowhere near being finished with the house. Thirdly, I am living with my parents. They are both in their 60's, and very christian in all aspects of life. I love them both dearly, but I believe they still think it's 1950. I have to be home by 11pm every night, or my mom sits up and waits for me to get there. I have to call home when I leave somewhere. I have to call home when I get somewhere. I get lectures when I stay out over night, anywhere. I don't think that my parents have come to realize that I am actually an adult now... well I am 27 years old. They are very old fashioned and simple minded... and there is no use in trying to change their beliefs. I went to a community college, and lived at home. That was three years ago. I had never been talked to about college by my parents at all. I was constantly asked why I wanted to drive an hour to go to college, when I could be working at a nearby factory and making very good money. My boyfriend has been to a community college...got his associates...a university... got his bachelors... and now has his masters degree. I love my boyfriend. He is a big part of my life. Since I have been raised with Christian morals and beliefs, I have told him I will not spend a single night in this house we are working on, until we are married. This is something I believe, but also something that my parents have instilled in me since I was a child. I have been having a lot of anxiety and depression problems. I believe that it's partly because everyone that I talk to from High School has already been married, has kids, and moved on with their lives a long time ago. I feel like I have been putting my life on hold for some reason. I feel like I need to move out of my parents house to be happy. To learn how to actually be an adult. I don't know how to do the simplest things that a normal adult would... such as housekeeping...cooking...all of that stuff. Lastly, I'm not real sure if I can make a living at my photography business alone. I am afraid that if I move out, that I will have to leave something I love so much...behind. Taking pictures is my whole life. I eat, dream and sleep photography. So, I guess my question is... -Should I move out of my parents house?  more

Voting Question: My 17 year old son has depression, what do I do!!?

My son has a reoccurring cycle of depression. He has been to our regular doctor and also to Christian counseling (no improvement, doctor would not put him on meds). He is very smart but refuses to do school work, makes A's on tests but will not do homework or study. He is involved in sports. His depression is ALWAYS triggered when a girl he is dating "breaks up with him" or something in the relationship goes sour. He is quick to threaten suicide, especially on myspace and face book, at the drop of a hat. I have tried to encourage him to stay away from serious relationships with girls, to no avail. I am a medical professional and hand out advise ALL day long... but I cannot solve my own dilemma... HELP!! If you have a teen you know that they do not take advise from parents well, and being a single mom it is even worse.... Suggestions?We have tired male and female couselor, he just freezes up. They tell me they cannot help him unless he is willing to share/talk.Oh, and he did go to a psychiatrist-- what a wierdo... he gave us both the creeps!! more

Resolved Question: Christian and Non-Christian Relationships?

I am a non-christian. It's not especially that I don't believe, it's just I've never really known much about Christianity until recently. However, my boyfriend is a Christian and I decided to learn about his beliefs so I can be compassionate and am able to properly respect his beliefs. In my search for knowledge and understanding I found this website http://net-burst.net/singles/dating.htm#mix There was a lot of helpful information, but this page specifically I found quite upsetting. Here are some quotes: "Since the Bible insists you have little chance if you chose ungodly people as close friends, you must choose between God and wrong friendships. You will not have both for long. When choosing close friends, especially where there is a chance of romantic involvement, remember this simple fact: a person either belongs to God or to the devil. There is no middle ground. To have sex with a non-Christian is to defile Christ. Scripture is emphatic that sex makes two people one. A born-again Christian is spiritually united to Christ and a non-Christian is spiritually united to the devil. To marry a non-Christian is therefore to try to make Christ one with the devil." "this puts sexual union with a non-Christian almost on the level of bestiality" "Christians who sin by marrying non-Christians are in grave danger. By disregarding God’s warning about relationships, they throw away their right to divine protection, unless they thoroughly repent, which involves genuinely regretting that they married." This may well be the case in Christianity, I do not know. But I have found these statements very upsetting and hoped that I may be able to hear others thoughts on this. Particularly Christians. I fear for our relationship, I fear for myself, but most of all I fear for him. If our relationship is endangering his faith, his chances of eternal life and is condemning, how can I do that to him? Thank you for your time. more

Resolved Question: How come Catholics don't know the history of Catholicism?

Here are my sources, please read them before you answer... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sol_Invictus#Sol_Invictus_and_Christianity http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Isis#Parallels_in_Catholicism_and_Orthodoxy http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sun_Day#Sunday_and_the_Sabbath http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mithras#Mithraism_and_Christianity P.S. I was raised and still am a Catholic... Constantine was a lifelong pagan who was baptized on his deathbed, during his time, Rome’s official religion was Sol Invictus, and Constantine was its head priest, unfortunately for him, a growing religious turmoil was gripping Rome, as Christians and pagans began warring, and the conflict grew to such proportions that it threatened to rend Rome in two, so he decided to unify Rome under a single religion, Christianity. Constantine converted the sun worshiping pagans to Christianity, by fusing pagan symbols, dates, and rituals into the growing Christian tradition, he created a kind of hybrid religion that was acceptable to both parties, as Egyptian sun disks became the halos of Catholic saints, pictogram of Isis nursing her miraculously conceived son Horus became the blueprint for our modern images of the Virgin Mary nursing Baby Jesus, virtually all the elements of the Catholic ritual, the miter, the altar, the doxology, and communion, were taken directly from paganism, even Christianity’s weekly holy day was from the pagans, originally, Christianity honored the Jewish Sabbath of Saturday, but Constantine shifted it to coincide with the pagan’s veneration day of the sun, Sun day, and Christ's birthday was taken from the pagan god, Mithras, who was born on December 25... During this fusion of religions, Constantine needed to strengthen the new Christian tradition, and held a famous ecumenical gathering known as the Council of Nicaea... At this gathering, many aspects of Christianity were debated and voted upon, the date of Easter, the role of the bishops, and the administration of sacraments... The Council of Nicaea was critical to the further unification of the Roman empire and to the new Vatican power base, this not only precluded further pagan challenges to Christianity, but now the followers of Christ were able to redeem themselves only via the established sacred channel, the Roman Catholic Church... more

Resolved Question: Is Catholicism a fusion of paganism and Christianity?

Constantine was a lifelong pagan who was baptized on his deathbed, during his time, Rome’s official religion was Sol Invictus, and Constantine was its head priest, unfortunately for him, a growing religious turmoil was gripping Rome, as Christians and pagans began warring, and the conflict grew to such proportions that it threatened to rend Rome in two, so he decided to unify Rome under a single religion, Christianity. Constantine converted the sun worshiping pagans to Christianity, by fusing pagan symbols, dates, and rituals into the growing Christian tradition, he created a kind of hybrid religion that was acceptable to both parties, as Egyptian sun disks became the halos of Catholic saints, pictogram of Isis nursing her miraculously conceived son Horus became the blueprint for our modern images of the Virgin Mary nursing Baby Jesus, virtually all the elements of the Catholic ritual, the miter, the altar, the doxology, and communion, were taken directly from paganism, even Christianity’s weekly holy day was from the pagans, originally, Christianity honored the Jewish Sabbath of Saturday, but Constantine shifted it to coincide with the pagan’s veneration day of the sun, Sun day, and Christ's birthday was taken from the pagan god, Mithras, who was born on December 25... During this fusion of religions, Constantine needed to strengthen the new Christian tradition, and held a famous ecumenical gathering known as the Council of Nicaea... At this gathering, many aspects of Christianity were debated and voted upon, the date of Easter, the role of the bishops, and the administration of sacraments... The Council of Nicaea was critical to the further unification of the Roman empire and to the new Vatican power base, this not only precluded further pagan challenges to Christianity, but now the followers of Christ were able to redeem themselves only via the established sacred channel, the Roman Catholic Church... Sources: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sol_Invictus#Sol_Invictus_and_Christianity http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Isis#Parallels_in_Catholicism_and_Orthodoxy http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sun_Day#Sunday_and_the_Sabbath http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mithras#Mithraism_and_Christianity more

Voting Question: Do scholars have an educational guess as to when Jesus was born?

According to what I've gathered, Constantine was a lifelong pagan who was baptized on his deathbed, during his time, Rome’s official religion was Sol Invictus, and Constantine was its head priest, unfortunately for him, a growing religious turmoil was gripping Rome, as Christians and pagans began warring, and the conflict grew to such proportions that it threatened to rend Rome in two, so he decided to unify Rome under a single religion, Christianity. Constantine converted the sun worshiping pagans to Christianity, by fusing pagan symbols, dates, and rituals into the growing Christian tradition, he created a kind of hybrid religion that was acceptable to both parties, as Egyptian sun disks became the halos of Catholic saints, pictogram of Isis nursing her miraculously conceived son Horus became the blueprint for our modern images of the Virgin Mary nursing Baby Jesus, virtually all the elements of the Catholic ritual, the miter, the altar, the doxology, and communion, were taken directly from paganism, even Christianity’s weekly holy day was from the pagans, originally, Christianity honored the Jewish Sabbath of Saturday, but Constantine shifted it to coincide with the pagan’s veneration day of the sun, Sun day, and Christ's birthday was taken from the pagan god, Mithras, who was born on December 25... If December 25 originated from Constantine's fusion of Paganism and Christianity, do scholars have an educational guess as to when Jesus was born? Sources: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sol_Invictus#Sol_Invictus_and_Christianity http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Isis#Parallels_in_Catholicism_and_Orthodoxy http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sun_Day#Sunday_and_the_Sabbath http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mithras#Mithraism_and_Christianity more

Resolved Question: Does he love me or not?

I met my man at work a year ago but we started to date 5 months ago. I am his company's client so we are not allow to date. We agreed with each other that we will just be friends with benefit, however, a month into our relationship we felt in love. (I had never done friend with benefit before. I've only been with my ex-husband and never had sex with anyone else after that. I was falling for this man before we even started to date). We say we love each other constantly. Anyway, I am still confused. He had couple ugly long relationships with his ex-s and he doesn't want another long relationship. My project is almost over with his company and that I have to travel to another state for my next project. I find it very offended when he keeps saying that he doesn't want a long relationship. He doesn't want any commitments or to be in a serious relationship. He never mentioned or have any ideas of introducing me to his friends or his family. He says he trusts me more than any girls he ever been with and that he would do whatever for me. He knows that I love flowers but he would never bought anything for me. I know he watch what he has to spend and that is good but I think this relationship is very unnormal for me. He told me he bought his ex diamond earings and flowers in the pass and that he had invested a lot in her. However, it was ended very badly. I was married once before and my ex and all of my girlfriends' boyfriends bought flowers or presents for the girls but my man is not going to do that. He says he doesn't believe in presents. He would go out to meet new friends in NYC without me but always ask my permission first. I am a little attractive so a lot of single guys in his company are after me. He knows that. Each time, I tried to break up with him because I think this relationship is not going to lead us anywhere. He would try to come back and I would just keep going back to him blindly. I love him very much but I don't think he has any plans for me in his future. I also don't want to let him go if what he says he loves me is true. I want to stay and to change his mind about long distance relationship. I am a very loyal type but it hurts me when he tries to go meet new people (he calls it that he goes listen to music or gather with serbian people). He thinks I am controlling him when I told him that I want to break up and that I don't think it was right for him to do those such a thing when people love each other. I know the group he is seeing is for single people (girls & guys). I know he doesn't sleep around either because we have been spending almost everyday together. I am so confusing right now with our relationship. I really don't know what to do. I love my man but I feel like he is hiding something from me. I feel like he doesn't want to let me go but he also doesn't want to be serious with me either. Is it how relationship suppose to be when people are in love? I was borned and raised in a christian family and I don't think it is right. However, I don't know if un-christian people are dating like that. He is unchristian so I can't read what he wants. By the way, I do have a child with my ex and I would go home on the weekend to see my child. He knows I have a child and it does concern him a little bit because he says he cannot love someone else child as his own. I don't know what I should do. If I have to let him go I don't want to hurt him either. I want us to break up peacefully but I don't know how. I don't know should I stay or should I leave. If you are in my shoes, what would you do? Please help! more

Voting Question: UK Why do people look for unrealistic sleeze/bad reasons why people are dating older or younger & not good one?

Why do people look for unrealistic sleeze or bad reasons why people are dating older or younger & not good ones Ie why come out with nonsense like what has a 20 and 16 year old got in common or 21 and 30 or 16 and 15 year old. Why not go ask them? Then you may get reasons like we are both inot rock music, both goths, into surfing and like Greenday. Maybe into acting, dolphins, rock climbing etc Or we are the only single people in are group of friends. Nothing sleezy. Why hanging out with different aged people in the first place/ How about all work at the same place or all in the same archery club or somethign more obvious like that? rather then something nasty. How about oooh must be something wrong if not hanging out with those your age.... Well how about the younger one's peers are all immature or worse gang, yob, thug, druggy types And the older ones peers are all coupled up, boring, have kids, like suits and no fun anymore to hang with and dont know any single people Makes more sense dont it? How about the older one must be into sex and the younger one totally innocent say 17 and 24. Lets see shall we compare the avwerage 17 year olds party with a 24 year olds work doo? The older one is everyone stressed and boring as cant relax for fear of loosing jobs if they actually have fun. The 17 year olds party is rocking everyone making out in every corner, having sex in the bedand bathrooms, falling over drunk, getting high in the dope head room and drinking /strip games in the kitchen. Ever thought that the younger one lieks somone older as a bit more mature, and the older one a little less of a boring stiff? As for experience... whats so unrealistic to think the older one is pretty lonley as never been in long term realtiosnhips just year after year goes past and unlucky in love and the younger one etting tred of shagging around. Or there are mixed aged social groups due to peoples older or younger siblings. As you get older life gets harder to socialise as few people who still want to come out clubbing or mates on the pull of both sexes still single. And what people want to do often gets boring ie stay in, behave so called appropiately. Does not mean you want to be boring into family events. So why do people always look for nasty sleezy reasons for people hanging out as mates or couples just as ones older then the other. Unless the younger one is very young well under 16. Also why does anyone care about the age of concent when the two members of the couple are only within a few weeks or months of each other... like whats the real difference. or make a big deal about someone 17 not being 18 and so called adult... whats going to change with a birthday? ******************** Why not look instead for real abuse if worried like the church (THE TWO BIGGEST ABUSERS OF CHILDREN BEING THE CHRISTIAN CHURCH AND ISLAM) and child abusing childrens homes, cases of fathers raping daughter and keeping them locked up, forced arranged marriage and hnour killings, teenagers denied abortions, domestic violence, african churches murdering and mutilating children accused of witchcraft and blaimed for anything, female gential mutilation done to young girls around 9 As in REAL abuse... worry about that and leave happy couples alone?. ******************** First poster... Why is it so hard for you to understand information that has been clarified into simple sentences with points on different lines and well spaced out and clear.? Few typos thats allposter 2 A 17 year old may like the same tv program as a 10 year old. So automatically that's right? what's another 6 birthdays? (UK) Erm who said anything about 10 year olds? Agin proving my point as all the examples I gave were ages of people who are likly to be dating or be sexaully active ie mid to late teens, 20s, 30s !0 year olds dont date dufus...toast the examples I gane are legal ie 16 plus or close enough say 15 and 48 weeks But also 14 and 15,16,or 17 are common and I would not call a 17 a full on adult but a late teen... ie likely to be sexaully active but still need parents Why assume its always going to be a far older person with topics like this? look at the age ranges given dont make up whats not therequote 16,17yr old wants at their point in life can be miles different from what a 20+ yr old wants out of their point in life Not really most likly both are still studying, partying, hanging with mates etc and just as older does not mean you are any more experienced. All the real life examples Ive seen of this were fine. Hence my attoude of not wanting nice people abused. And What gets me is the real nasty abusers get off scot free as too many idiots are barking at the wrong tree. Ie how many have been prosecuted after 30,000 girls were imprisioned in slave camps for flirting for life getting raped by priests and beaten by nuns? zeroquote 16,17yr old wants at their point in life can be miles different from what a 20+ yr old wants out of their point in life Not really most likly both are still studying, partying, hanging with mates etc and just as older does not mean you are any more experienced. All the real life examples Ive seen of this were fine. Hence my attoude of not wanting nice people abused. And What gets me is the real nasty abusers get off scot free as too many idiots are barking at the wrong tree. Ie how many have been prosecuted after 30,000 girls were imprisioned in slave camps for flirting for life getting raped by priests and beaten by nuns? zero more

Resolved Question: Fellow Christians...Does The Bible Give An Age To The Earth?

Today the earth is assumed to be approximately 4.6 billion years old while the universe is believed to be at least 10 to 15 billions years of age. For the theory of evolution to be true, it is necessary that the earth be very old. For life to spontaneously develop from an original single cell to our present complex universe, billions of years are needed. Christians who believe the earth is old usually view the “days” recorded in Genesis as referring to long periods of time. Others argue that the entire creation account is only supposed to be understood figuratively. A popular view is that the earth was created about six thousand years ago in 4004 B.C. This date of creation is usually associated with the work of Archbishop James Ussher (1581-1656). The 4004 B.C. date of creation is inaccurate because the genealogies in Genesis that Ussher used to calculate the years from the creation to Christ are incomplete. It is not a simple thing to add up the various years listed from the time of Adam. The late Bible scholar Merrill Unger wrote: It is highly improbable that the genealogical framework of Gen 5 was intended to be used or can be used, for calculating the number of years (1656) between the creation of man and the Flood, thus dating man’s creation 4004 B.C., (Ussher). There are several reasons: (1) The Hebrew terms ‘begat,’ ‘son,’ ‘daughter’ are used with great latitude and may involve a distant as well as immediate descendant. (2) The ten generations from Adam to Noah and the ten from Noah to Abraham evidently aim at brevity and symmetry, rather than an unbroken father-to-son relation. (3) Abbreviations due to symmetry are common features of Scripture genealogies (as in Mt 1). (4) In the recurring formula A lived—years and begat B, and A lived after he begat B— years and begat sons and daughters, B may not be the literal son of A. If so, the age of A may be his age when his descendant was born from whom B was descended. An indefinite time interval may therefore be intended between A and B (Merrill Unger, The New Unger’s Bible Handbook, revised by Gary L. Larsen, Chicago: Moody Press, 1984, pp. 36,37). Most scientists, Christian and non-Christian, believe the earth and universe are old. The age of the earth is not an issue that has been settled among believers. Scientist Paul Zimmerman writes: Thus the evolutionist needs a very old earth. His theory is utterly hopeless if the earth is young . . . On the other hand the creationist can operate with a young earth or a very ancient one . . . The creationist does not need millions of years to make his theory workable. For the believer in creation the question is a different one: (1) What does the Bible say about the date of creation? (2) Is this information at variance with the facts brought to light by scientific research? These questions the creationist seeks to answer . . . Actually neither the scientist nor the creationist can fix the date of the beginning. The Bible permits certain general conclusions, but it does not give the age of the earth. The scientist in turn can make certain interesting calculations, but his computations are often interlarded with slippery assumptions, and the results are beclouded by serious questions that rise in the research (P. A. Zimmerman, “The Age of the Earth,” in Darwin, Evolution and Creation, P.A. Zimmerman, ed; St. Louis: Concordia, 1959, pp. 144,145). How Old Is The Earth? No one knows for certain, of course, when the beginning was. But the Old Testament is far more interested in the fact of creation than the time of creation, and the simple truth that God’s creative activity took place during an indeterminate time known as “the beginning” was joyfully celebrated by poet (Ps. 102.25) and prophet (Isa. 40:21) alike. My question is : Do you still believe that the earth is 6000 years old? If you do, please enlighten me. Thank you in advance for your answers. more

Resolved Question: How can I heal after a break-up with a great guy (Christian perspective)?

I have been in an on and off relationship with a great guy for the past five years. He is intelligent, sweet, hard-working, affectionate, caring, and very helpful. You might be thinking why in the world did you break up with this guy and to be honest I wonder about the same thing every second. However, the thing that he does not have is initiative. I just feel like I have to tell him where to go, what to do, what to help me with, what to do next in life, etc. He does all this things if I tell him to, but I don't want to be pushing him every second. I feel exhausted all the time and I feel like he does this things because he loves me and not because he wants to. I also think that if I have to tell him to do all these things I might as well do them myself or be alone for that matter. For all this time we have been dating he has talked to me about all these wonderful plans and dreams that he wants to accomplish but so far he hasn't done any of them. He says that if I would be more expressive of my love (and I don't mean physically) he would be able to do all this things I want of him, but since I need to see all those things to feel loved (all the things he is great at + goals and doing things to accomplish them) I always been kind of hesitant about actually marrying him. I need that because I am a very service oriented person and I am always thinking where I can help in Church and my community and what plans God has for me in this area. I am always involved in some sort of community service or church service and I feel I need a guy that likes to do all these things as well. Not to be busy all the time, but to serve as God called us to serve. Am I doing something wrong here? Am I being immature? I have not been on many relationships myself. Should I get back with him? This is the reason why we have been dating on and off for all this time and because this has always been a long distance relationship. Another factor is that I become a Christian during the time we have been together. He did too after a long wait from me, but we are in different levels of commitment to Christ and that also makes me feel like I am the one leading the relationship and he follows. As I understand it (correct me if I am wrong) the guy is the one who is supposed to lead the relationship, not the girl. I don't want to be with a guy who only wants his way, but I don't want a guy that only does what I tell him to do either. Please help! As you can see, I need answers from a Christian perspective. And if you are a single Christian guy that meets the qualities I am looking for please contact me. I at least need to know that these guys still exist. more

Resolved Question: Why is the advice offered here so often geared towards "relationships"?

And delivered in the context of relationships? If I ask a question about sex, don't talk to me about relationships. Save your babel about morals and ethics for church and Women's Studies class. No one seems to give advice telling men how to get sex, how to date around, how to meet the most attractive women and convince them to be more giving and malleable. - Why not? Considering that most people willfully admit that young men are most interested in promiscuous sex or quick dating. >> If this is the case, then why would you continually try to advise people contrary to their desires? It'd be like me going into Christian chruch, walking to the front unannounced and lecturing everyone on the benefits of the Koran ... every single week. That **** gets old, fast. Stop the bs guys.. really. _____ Tera- Women don't considerate being 'manipulated', they just think of it is "cool". Ask the millions of prostitutes, tens of thousands of porn actresses, 10s of millions of loose women >> they LOVE it. It's good for everyone involved._______ How is getting sex, and dating around with attractive women considered 'manipulating' women anyway? I didn't ask about 'pimping' women or anything like that._________ Gee- I never said sex was the most important thing, but it just happens to be what i'm asking about right now. I'm just telling people to stop advising others on morals and ethics; either answer the question- or don't answer it, but leave your lectures at home.________ I appreciate your cooperation Kris. Next time someone asks me for my opinion or advice towards doing something I don't necessarily condone- I'll either skip the question, or try my best to offer the most fruitful advice I can on the issue._________ To be honest though, I am suprised that this site is populated with so many people who don't like entertaining the idea of having sex with hot broads. I truly don't get it. Since when does America not value this? -- new to me. more

Resolved Question: Do I leave this wonderful fabulous man for a chance to be with someone I'm not sure about?

ok. I am currently engaged to a wonderful man. We've been together for over two years and our wedding is scheduled for August. I love him very much, and I can totally see myself raising a family with him, he works hard, he loves his family, he's Christian, and he is ambitious and very connected in the community. We are both graduating college this year. However there is another guy who I haven't seen in two years. We went to high school together and didn't meet until senior year, but we became best friends, or rather I fell in love with him and he took a while to realize our relationship was more than friendship because he had broken up with someone else he had dated for two years. We basically acted like we were together except for a title for a long time, but by the time we actually broke down our barriers, I had to go to another city for the summer and after that it was college in two different states. We had a painful break up, he got depressed and my heart broke thinking he was callous, but he stopped talking to me because it was the easiest way to get over each other fastest. It would have been really hard to do long distance. I know he loved me though. He also got engaged sophomore year but broke it off half a year later. He told me I was the first one he wanted to know, he had started getting more in contact with me before, started putting pictures of us up online, and sent me a birthday gift for the first time. Then, when I got engaged a few months later, when he heard, instead of congratulating me, he took a semester off of school (we're college seniors now), and he told me he was going to come visit me. He said he would get a hotel room, stay for as long as he was welcome, and that he would tell me why he needed to come when he got here. However, he never got around to visiting. My first thought was that he was coming to break me up with my fiance and get me back, but I suppose he rethought that. The problem is that when I see pictures of him, my heart still flutters, and I can't help thinking that maybe, just maybe I'm making the wrong decision. He has grown up a lot since high school. I think he still feels the same way, I've been hesitant to ask him straight out. When I first started talking to my current fiance, I couldn't help but realize that he had all the same qualities that made my high school beau quirky, but that he was better in so many ways. I would be happy with him. What should I do? I don't want to leave an amazingly good thing that I have now for a chance to date an old flame. Is that all he is? I keep thinking that he is just someone to leave behind. We were passionately in love, but we had to end the relationship before it was ridden out to the bitter end naturally. So we left it at the passionately in love phase. It seriously took me ages to get over him, but in that time he was engaged and then single again. What do I do? I don't want to postpone the wedding or otherwise unless I'm sure. But right now, if one person could break me up with my fiance, it would be this guy. Maybe. If I were feeling reckless. v more

Resolved Question: What sorts of dating techniques do scholars use to date a Biblical text?

If Genesis 1-11 is viewed primarily as an oral tradition rather than actual history (which I believe most scholars would agree with), how can we corroborate the events that happen in the rest of the Torah? How can we even prove that people like Isaiah, Daniel, Ezra, and the other Old Testament "prophets" even existed, or if their books were even written at one time by one person, without the original documents? To construct the current Old Testament, aren't we really just going on bad Greek translations made 3-4 centuries after the events happened? We of course have corroborating documents like the Dead Sea Scrolls, but those are dated using dreaded carbon-14 data (which is of course only accurate when proving the Judeo-Christian tradition). So basically, do we have a definitive chronology of the Old Testament writings, whether they were written by single authors and not changed in translation later on? Also (kind of unrelated), are there any specific and accurately-dated "prophecies" in the OT that you find compelling. I mean, Isaiah 52-53 supposedly describes Jesus, but it really could descibe anyone delivering a captive people from dominance. And who's to say it wasn't a self-fulfilling prophecy (Jesus took on the characteristics prophecized in old writings to be more effective), or one that was amended at a later date? I'm an atheist, but open minded. Thanks in advance for any answer you can give me. more

Resolved Question: where do singles hang out?

i need to know where people would go to find a nice man (actually a woman...its for my cousin) a nice person to date around the ages of 22 to 31 or so but im looking for something not like a bar my cousin doesnt drink and hes a christian so no bars or clubs or that sort of thing but there has to be something more

Resolved Question: Q. for Christians: Describe the necessary practices and characteristics for a Follower of The ONLY TRUE God?

During the course of time I have spent on here (Y!A), I’ve received answers to some of my questions so diverse and outrageous to me - and yet on the same topic - that it often left me wondering, “how many categories of Christians are there?” I thought there was only One! Are not all of these statements precisely required and indispensable to claim commitment and faithfulness to the Christian God: 1 - Complete agreement with “the entire” Holy Bible as the divine words and instructions from God. 2 - Total acceptance that God created the Earth and Universe in 6 days (at approx. 4,004 BC), and made Man unique, as well as complete. 3 - A definite rejection of the legitimacy of all other “Gods and religions”, other than your own - as being nothing more than inventions, distractions, and falsehoods inspired by Satan. If not these, then what are some of the firm adherences of Christianity? Are there not some unquestionable elements to observe, in accordance with the Holy Bible? Or, is it all just a matter of whatever you want it to be, through your own or others’ interpretations? I have heard so many followers say that each person interprets the Bible differently, and that is okay by their standards. But, is it in compliance with the One True Gods’ will? Is it not God who should be guiding you, and not the approval of Man! Would not the spirit of God, and good fellowship with learned people of your faith, move you more reliably to meaningfulness and significance - or is it in the opinions, on this forum, where you will find confidence, strength, and knowledge about God? Maybe I’m wrong in looking for a distinct nature to Christianity. But from what I’ve seen, this INCONSISTENCY is THE major culprit for encouraging disbelief in Christianity, particularly for those who may have believed, or may just be searching - not the atheists, supposedly spreading the “lies of Satan”! I’m just asking, because the practicality of using this forum, with all of its distorted depictions and inaccuracies, does not seem beneficial for cultivating a relationship with any God. I dare say, it probably has about as much of a chance of successfully helping someone as the Singles & Dating section will at finding someone a spouse. What are your Christian thoughts on this?If you find this relevant, or irrelevant, give it a star so others in your contacts may see it and answer it. I will leave it up here for a few days.This really was my "very best effort" at trying to be unbiased in understanding the true nature about Christians today (I thought I knew what it was to be a Christian, growing up and learning about it in that environment as a child). My own belief (my profile) is not the issue.Very interesting point Yehudi - Matthew 5:17-19 more

Resolved Question: Should a Christian led dating service be legally required to offer homosexual options?

http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20081119/us_nm/us_gay_marriage_eharmony;_ylt=AspL_62NdV2Qx3MNSwTNz_TLLJ94 A lawsuit is forcing eHarmony, a dating service started by an evangelical Christian, to offer services to single gays. Whether you agree with homosexuality or not, should they be forced to offer a service that was not in their original business plan. Its not the same as handicap bathrooms, as a private company they are being forced to offer a service that was not part of their original business mission. If a restaurant can deny service based on improper clothing (coat & tie, shoes, shirt) etc. why are they being forced to serve a clientel they had not intended on serving. Why is it a problem to specialize for one portion of the public, it is a private service after all. In a capitalistic society wouldn't it make more sense for someone to step up and open a homosexual based dating service rather than have government force a private institution to add new services to their business. A Christian business man should not be forced to have his business specifically do something that is against his personal beliefs and against the original intention of his business.Ruth, I have to ask if you have a link to provide more info on that b/c my search turned up nothing. Also, the site doesn't offer man seeking man or woman seeking woman; shouldn't that be a bold clue? Their research used to set up their site specifically is for heterosexual couples. In order to provide the same service for homosexual seekers they will have to invest in research and invest considerably. more

Resolved Question: Is this right? eHarmony forced to have a gay dating site?

A gay man has won $5,000 and a free one year membership after he sued eHarmony for "discrimination" because they do not match gays up with each other. eHarmony settled with him. What do you think of the lawsuit? I think it is ridiculous that it did not get thrown out. Should a Christian dating website be forced to have a website for atheists, Muslims, and others? Should a "black singles" website be forced to have a site for white people too? http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,454904,00.html more

Resolved Question: is it wrong to pray for a husband?

I'm 18 and single an it's hard for me to date because not alot of guys now days have good morals...and i decided to start praying that God will send me a man that is a southern gentleman and is a good christian boy that wants a relationship and not just....relations....is that wrong? more

Resolved Question: Mature women only please. How can I get the woman of my dreams back into my life?

I am an attractive 40 year old man. I have been interested in a woman for over 7 years, she is the woman of my dreams and she is 29. I know her very well and I always wanted her to be my wife. I work with her. I am a Christian she is a non-Christian. She is in a relationship, living with a man for the last 3 years. I am single. We used to be best friends but had a falling out over two and a half years ago because she wanted me to accept her relationship and I wouldn't because of my Christian beliefs and since that time we do not speak to one another. I told her the truth and unlike the other men in her life, I did not attempt to take her out and get her drunk to have sex with her. I really wanted to marry her. She has had a few relationships before this present man but they all failed because the men she dated got her drunk and used her for sex and it left her broken hearted. I used to talk to her every day, sent her gifts, shared deep thoughts with her and I know she loved it because she told me she did. The man she lives with does not like me, considers me a threat to his relationship with her and went out of his way to slander me and humiliate me. I know he's the worst thing to ever happen to her, is no different and even worse than the guys she dated before him and has even told his friends what he does to her in bed. He slept with her the night she met him because she was too drunk to say no and has low self-esteem and he refuses to marry her when I know she wants to get married. At work she continuously reads my mail without my authorization, asks our mutual friends regularly how I am doing and has attempted on a few occassions to speak to me but I responded to her that I will only speak to her when she removes the man she is living with from her life and I told her he was a bad influence on her life and the worst boyfriend she could ever have. He doesn't have a job and is living off the money she makes. He even sold the gifts I sent to her home on her birthday three years ago and took her out with the funds from my gifts. She still stays with him but she is not as happy as she used to be. I know. The friends she hangs out with take her out drinking regularly and she is not a good drunk; alcohol impares her judgment, especially when it comes to choosing men for relationships. Her friends don't like me much either due to my Christian beliefs about love and marriage (I take my faith seriously), and have nothing good to say about me. All her friends are non-Christian. The few times I do see her, the look in her eyes which is sad, always says to me, "I wish you would talk to me." Her mother works at the same place as both of us and after having a long chat with her, she doesn't like her daughter's boyfriend either but is letting her daughter learn the hard way she said. Needless to say, going to work is an uncomfortable situation for both of us, but I would love her like no other, respect her and treat her the way I know she always wanted to be treated which her present boyfriend and her ex's never did, if she gave me an honest chance. However, I know she's been used by so many men and hurt so bad, that she's settled for second best. Everytime I saw her date someone else it killed me inside, especially when she was used and rejected. I did ask her out but she said her boyfreind was a "lifer", but that is what she said about all her previous boyfriends. I think she's only dating him because dating him is better than being alone. Any good advice? more

Resolved Question: what just happened? I was happy being a single mother..just me and my little guy and now im a family of six!! ?

I am a single mother of a three year old boy. I always had a small hope for his father and I to get back together sometime in the future although we have not been together for 2 years..During this 2 years he has had another girlfriend and I remained single..I then hooked up with this guy one night I have been dating him for three months now...which is all good and everything but he got me pregnant!!! the first time we slept together too!! At first I was kind of in shock and didn't know what to do...I am a strong christian(yeah I know i had sex before marriage, nobodies perfect) so i don't believe in abortion at ALL!!! but part of me didn't want to have this baby with this guy because I felt things could still work with my ex sometime in the future plus I never wanted my son to grow up with half siblings or step siblings which he will now have both because the guy im dating now has two kids...Oh and hes also 15 years older then me....he wants to marry me and be with me forever but i just don't know what to do...I would look kind of horrible to be a single mother of two kids with two different dads but I actually have really enjoyed being single...I feel like i develop a stronger relationship with God and I also enjoy being independent and doing things on my own...I just don't know what to do with myself...If I end up not wanting to be with this guy I kinda dont want to be with anyone, my ex wont take me back after i tell him im pregnant so theres no hope there...my boyfriend now really is the nicest guy ever and would do anything for me...and please dont hate me for saying this but hes not very attractive..im sorry, I guess that makes me kind of shallow but i think its important to be attracted to someone...I dont like thinking this way but I cant help it...I dont want to hurt him but I dont want to lead him on either...we are looking to get a house together but I dont know if thats a good idea...but part of me things it will make me happier and we will get to be with eachother more which will help me sort out my feelings....I dont know...I feel like a horrible person kinda...I understadn that a baby is such a wonderful gift from God and I really am grateful for this gift...but what should i do about this unborn babies father????  more

Resolved Question: Blind date problems AND I'm interested in someone else! help?

Alright my baby sister and I are 2 years and four days apart. So we're really close. We started going to this Christian singles thing. And she's been really into this guy "Craig". Last night he asked her out on a double date....problem for me: he wants me and his friend to double with them! I've never met his friend, and I'm kinda into someone else. I'm single and all but I don't want this blind double date thing to ruin my chances with "Chance". They all know eachother and if he finds out... he might think I'm not into him! Am I over ananlyzing this? Chance and I aren't even dating or anything. Should I just go with the flow or what? more

Resolved Question: I'm really stuck on this christian guy!?

oookay... so i thought about this question a lot and i didnt want to put it in Singles and Dating, becuase it doesnt feel the same to me, being a christian. I am a christian, and there is this guy in our 20's age community group that i've known for about a year and a half now.. hes SOO awesome, hes funny, he's kind, we have so much in common, and most of all he LOVES THE LORD! and we get along great! i really like him and i used to a lot before and i was eventually able to push away those feelings, because he's not too big on dating... he says its because he focuses on God and he knows when God will put "that one" in his life... his sister (my good friend) says its because of a past relationship he had before i met him. I think its a mixture of both... and i dont know what to do in this situation! more

Resolved Question: How to meet Christian men to date that aren't gay but aren't just horny guys saying "Yay Jesus"?

Seriously, I have some handicaps. I'm celibate by choice, five foot one, and 210 lbs. I am working on that, and if you are going to post rude comments or imply that I should stay home and stuff myself in a dark box until I come out 115 lbs and horny, well... Ya, um... everybody's entitled to their opinion, I just won't be considering yours. LOL So, I don't believe in sex before marriage, or even making out, etc. I'm serious about the Lord, and I am a single parent. I work full time, but I'm not rich, and I have debt I'm paying on, and I live with my Dad because my kid needs him around in order to not be a little hoodlum. Apparently just having me around wasn't working. So this is working. So, I work at a preschool, and I go to church twice a week, and on occassion, I go to a bigger church in the next town. I talk to lots of people, just most of them are married. Or they see me as invisible because of the weight factor, or something. I have had men approach me, but it's usually when I'm in my tshirt and jeans, and when I get all dressed up, I couldn't get more invisible. LOL So I'm apparently not hideous looking. I just am not date material, I guess. So far the only men attracted to me are my Dad's age (I am 35), or they have something inherently wrong with them, like they are an unmedicated paranoid schizo, or they like to rape children, or they have been clean and sober a whopping ten days (Yay, but let's not go out until you've been sober a year, ok?). I know I'm picky, but let's be honest here... I don't have anybody to be picky about!!!! Suggestions? Tried Christian dating websites : Eharmony- lots of matches from other states (that's kind of silly), or guys that were looking for or willing to have sex before marriage, tried several other sites, chat rooms, MySpace, Tagged, craigslist, you name it. Tried the grocery store, tried going to other churches... Starbucks... I keep meeting sex fiends, or wierdos. more

Resolved Question: Why must I be a Muslim?!!! Islam?

I think you should ask yourself if Islam is right or wrong,fake. I have a post on my blog that reflects my point of view. So here is my answer and please I would like you to share yours. Do you agree? Are you going to be fair while thinking and reading about Islam?!!! My own answer to the question. Why must I be a Muslim? is A: Why must I be a Muslim? The logical answer is: B: Why you must not be a Muslim !!!!!!!! So, it is 'who I am and why I live' the same as William Shakespeare's Hamlet thought, "To be or not to be, that is the question ". It is a matter of searching for the pure and needed Truth. There are no two identical objects even if they are twins. As a result, if there are two or more religions, either one of them or none is true. Do I embrace the real one or mine is fake?!!! Do not allow others affect you to attack or advocates any religion since it is your own benefit or detriment: paradise or hell. To get to the shore safely, you should use your own brain. Do not form your attitude upon the words of these people who are for or those who are against one religion. Yet, you have to choose the people who are famous for being fair to read for or listen to. Also, think why great thinkers and scientists etc … of all nationalities embrace Islam nowadays in spite of the big efforts exerted to attack that religion. As it is motioned in http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Islam , "the word Islam is a verbal noun originating from the trilateral root s-l-m, and is derived from the Arabic verb Aslama, which means "to accept, surrender or submit." Thus, Islam means acceptance of and submission to God*, and believers must demonstrate this by worshipping him, following his commands, and avoiding polytheism." *Allah NOTE:- Listen to the Qura'n and think of what you will feel. DO THE WORDS HAVE SUCH A POWER ON THE ISNIDE OF A HUMAN WHAT ABOUT ITS POWER ON NONHUMAN?!!! A link to the Qura'n save the target to listen to it without the loading problems. http://www.almuaiqly.com/arabic/index.php?action=audio&id=57&album_id=15 or Links about Islam and Scintific discoveries that are said by Muhamed more than 1498 years ago. http://www.elnaggarzr.com/en/index.php http://www.islamicity.com/ http://www.4newmuslims.org/ http://www.islam.com/ http://www.islamonline.net/english/index.shtml http://islamworld.net http://www.islamreligion.com/ http://55a.net You can read more at my own blogs: at My Profile muslim,muslims,muslim com,www muslim,baby muslim,muslim name,hindu muslim,islam muslim,muslim names,muslim obama,muslim woman,muslim women,muslim world,obama muslim,barack muslim,busana muslim,muslim dating,muslim prayer,muslim single,muslim wedding,marriage muslim,muslim marriage,muslim religion,muslim christian,muslim baby names,barack obama muslim islam,islamic,islam com,islamabad,www islam,islamorada,islam women,women islam,islam muslim,islam online,islam history,islamic books,what is islam,islam malaysia,islam marriage,islam religion,women in islam,islamic history,islamic studies,history of islam, islamic clothing, islamic religion,islam christianity, islamabad pakistan A B C life, ABC thinking, Allah, Christ, Christianity, God, Hell, Islam, Islamic, Jew, Mohammad, Moslem, Muslim, Paradise, Qura'n, Quraan, reality, Religion, Religious, To be or not to be more

Resolved Question: Why is this happening to me? What can I do (outside of praying and hoping)?

I have lately been having these dreams about sex with girls (sometimes even girls I know!). I'm 21, soon to be 22, and have not had a steady girlfriend or have had sex. I am a Christian, but like every guy, I have "whacked off." My pastor says this is a sinful deed, but in my situation, I seem to be stuck. There is a girl I really like, but she lives in Georgia, and I live in Illinois...so we can't meet really. The girls at my college aren't the girls I want to date...and the girls at church seem to ignore me and won't go out with me. I am 5'8'', 160 lbs, and not ugly at all. I am intelligent, but I try not to boast ever of my accomplishments. Are these dreams, like, a sexual repression? Is there hope for me? I love God, but my pastor says all I care about is a relationship...and it is hard, when I am virtually the only guy I know who is not in one or married. I've gotten past the point of frustration and any HELPFUL advice would be appreciated. Thanks to all who have some good advice for me. Also, I want to stress that I seem to have little opportunities as I don't smoke, drink (really), have sex, or have girls as friends (who are single and good looking). I just feel that my situation is hopeless when I pray about it (sometimes) and I get nothing...like one date per year if that...I hate having to be patient because I want a hot virgin wife who is Christian...but, those girls seem to be virtually non existent, or taken (dating/married). And I want to put God first, but my sexual tensions will not subside...I've really been trying and it seems that the small "pool" of potential mates, my pickyness towards finding a girl, shyness at times, and religion will lead me to be alone forever. Please don't think that I'm a pussy or weird guy...I am completely normal and healthy. I just really question my faith because males have needs, regardless of being pure or not. I'm keeping my purity...I just don't want to go crazy because of it, lol. Thanks once again, and I hope someone has the answer that I'm looking for.  more

Resolved Question: Is this normal?? Internet dating/frendships...never met before...?

I recently met this guy on an internet chat room. he is only a yr older than me. we started chatting and got 2 knw each other pretty well...the problem is i hav a crush on him bt he(being a christian) has already promised himself 2 another girl and he also says he views me as more of a sister...he is single and im 15 hes 16...hw cn i get him2 4get abt her and like me?? more

Resolved Question: Is the book Dating Boundaries for teens?

I'm 23 and I was gonna get it but I'm afraid it's for teens. They have such good books(judging by cover, I know bad) on dating and romantic relationships and single. In the Christian book store. So is that book for teens? Or can I read it? more

Resolved Question: To check your lovers email or not?

I've been dating this lady for 9 months and I love her deeply! But when I was putting a story board together, through our emails we had written in the last 9 months. I found some emails that I didn't like. She had met a guy through a single christian site on the third month of our relationship. They wrote back and forth and talked about meeting while I was at soccer practise with my daughter. Fortunately, they never met and I brought this to her attention last night. Now she's mad at me for how I didn't bring it to her attention sooner...who's in the wrong here? I have forgiven her for it and she said "it was 6 months ago and why should that bother you?" What should I make of that? Please help!  more

Resolved Question: Evolution. Oh yes, Evolution.?

Creationists say constantly that "scientists" are "abandoning" evolution. Can I get a link to a real scientist saying anything like that? And please, as a... "public service announcement", Theory doesn't mean, in science, "A guess", it means a "testable model of the manner of interaction of a set of natural phenomena, capable of predicting future occurrences or observations of the same kind, and capable of being tested through experiment or otherwise verified through empirical observation.". In other words, a "Theory" is a testable, slightly imperfect fact. Evolution is a fact, but some small details we will find, eventually were either wrong, or (more likely) way deeper than we initially knew. Where... Where are the scientists that say Evolution is wrong, and carbon dating is ineffective? Where? Show me these people, I want to either 1. Learn from them, or 2. Out them as frauds! I want REAL QUOTES, from RESPECTED professors at real universities, or scientists that actually matter, not some quack drug addled retard in a town that still thinks it's in the old west, and got a degree from a "university next door". I want research papers. I want facts. Disprove my theory, disprove my FACTS, with actual EVIDENCE, not pointing and saying "I dunt undastand, so god musta didit." Don't take this as an insult, if this is what you believe, back it up! Show me, show me the evidence, show me the facts. Don't point to the eye, or the ear, and ask how our sensory systems came to be, you can wikipedia that, and get accurate, detailed answers on the phylogeny of the Eye. The bomber beetle is crap, that's a horrible example of bad christian science, hydroquinones and hydrogen peroxide do not react violently, in the concentrations the beetles hold them at, do not react violently without pressure from the beetle. Mix them in a flask, they barely even heat up. (It's a very mild exothermic reaction, sensitive to pressure). We've deflected every single assault, yet you people still blindly assault, and insult us, and those of us who are over the microscopes are getting a little offended and annoyed. It's silly. Also - another public service announcement. Evolution is not linear. An assumption people make is that evolution is a straight line, and that things are always mutating and getting "Better". Different environments lead to different advantages based on different traits, thus different things becoming "Better" for that time period, and after a few thousand years, you'll see adaptations based on that. Did all of your 6th-10th grade biology teachers fail you? Evolution is a fact. The "imperfections" are in the smaller details, but not the ones you claim, we know exactly where eyes and ears came from, we've explained divergence in other threads, we've explained tons of other things, the things we *don't* know, I never see brought up, like contact inhibition mechanisms and protein/enzyme production down/upregulations as it relates to genetics... Which are infinitessimally tiny details, although important ones, but no matter what the result of the testing and what we discover, Evolution as a whole will be unaffected, it's still true. It's true. It's true. It's true. Why? Why won't you people crack open a textbook, or quit pretending to know about it? Either of the two would be fine, I'm not a mathematician, and I don't talk to people about mathematics, unless they're at a severe proficiency level disadvantage and I have something I could share with them.I think we scared them off... *glances around*... Bah... I'll get an answer, or an admission of BS out of them one day :\Species do not jump from one thing to the other. They slowly transition over time. No, we don't have any "transitional fossils", because that's a made up term. Humans have changed slightly over recorded history, ever been to a museum that has a suit of armor, that a Knight or a King wore? They were 5'1 to 5'7... (some anomalies were shorter or taller, but not by a lot), which means I could have punted most Knights. Evolution takes thousands of years to make a small change, keep in mind, the time scale we're working with is measured in the millions of years, and you're referring to evolution again as being a linear progression, which it is not. You're misusing the science, and being belligerent about it. That's not an answer, an argument, or a soapbox to stand on, you sir, are wrong. more

Resolved Question: The young and the restless recap of today show.?

What do you think about this? I wanted to slap Chloe, for continue to treat her mother like dirt! I am also glad that the Y&R writers keep pointing out that Chloe is getting bigger. I hope that Billy or Olivia figures out that Chloe was lying about the due date! BTW, Chloe could have said it in nicer way that she didn't want her touching her belly. I agree that Esther needs to put her foot down with her daughter or she will continue to walk all over her. I didn't like Cane caving in Chloe and agreeing to take her Indigo. Though it looked like Cane was babysitting Chloe most of the time there anyways LOL. I also wanted to slap Tyra hard, so many times today. First, she was out of line asking if Karen and Neil were going to have a famiy. It's none of her damn business!!The second was commenting to Karen that can't understand a parent need to protect a child. BTW that hyprocrite, needs to remember is only an aunt to Tyra, not her mother! And of course, her wanting to hit Cane, grr. Did she forget that Cane paid her hotel bill when she first came to town. I think she was trying to score points with Neil, by offering to do that. And then her snide remark that it's small world that Olivia and Karen knew each other. She is an mean, conniving woman and I want her gone! And Tyra, plus Ana, stick out like a sore thumb in these scenes and on the show. Lily looked completely rejuvenated from her trip in NYC. It sounded a lot of fun what her and Olivia did. I agree that Colleen was actually a good friend to Lily. Surprise, surprise LOL. Loved the wild womens on the loose comment. Maybe Daniel breaking up with her, actually cleared her mind LOL Loved Billy joining the single group and he and Colleen are believable as family. Though I didn't like that Billy suggested that he and Chloe(BTW, she stalk him to Indigo) work together to keep Lane apart. Oh, I laughed at Billy's remark that he wanted to bounce Cane like a kanagroo LOL. I loved seeing Olivia too. She was quite fiesty, when she wanted to go after Cane LOL. But I think her feeling was right, Lily does need her! talked to Olivia. And again, Neil didn't ask for Karen's opinion, when he asked Olivia to stay with him? Karen didn't look to happy, after he said that. I thought Lily handled Cane, being at Indigo in a mature manner today. I'm glad that he apologized to Lily for being there. I laughed when Lily told Cane that it was none of his business after he told her not to trust Billy. He is right though. BTW, looks like Cane is taking Kevin's warning about Billy seriously. I got to say that Judith was superb in her scenes as she blasted Lowell for leaving them. So was Michael and Christian. The pain was so raw in those scenes. River was right that he deserved that blasting and knew Gloria needed to get it out! I noticed that Michael was deeply affected as went to comfort his mother. But I didn't like Lowell giving the green light to all of Gloria's actions after he left them. And did you see the intense look they shared, I am convinced they are hiding something else from Michael And you are right that Gloria is more human around Lowell. But Lowell would be horrified to see what a selfish, gold digger, opportunist woman that Gloria has become. I did enjoy seeing the flashbacks, because it gave us a better understanding what Gloria/Lowell were like as a young couple before their lives fell apart Loved the parellel scenes generation scenes of Gloria/Lowell/young Michael, then the scene moved to Michael/Lauren/Fen And you know it was so precious as Michael lifted Fen in the air as he played with him while Lauren surrounded them. Fen had the sweetest laugh. I loved that scene so much! Best of luck to Michael trying to find some witnesses. I really liked seeing Sharon acting like a real parent telling Noah don't give her attitude when he showed disrepect to her at CL. Noah was bad not keeping his phone on. But I am glad that they worked things out later. I also liked him asking Sharon about girls, typical teenager boy question. And you are right, Eden isn't a typical girl. LOL But her messing with Noah's head was funny. They are cute together! I also like that Eden is acting better with Likey by adjusting to school and living with them. I also think that Eden should be punished for helping Lowell escape too. But sending her to Paris, does give Likey some well earned time off from her LOL.  more

Voting Question: I am 35 my husband is 51. We have been married 9 months. He was single for 5 years and did not date any sort?

got not used to going out and doing alot of things. He did this because he was christian and was waiting on the right woman from God. When we were dating and first married he initiated sex alot and was very attentive. Now he seems more moody which he may have been this way before we started dating too. He no longer initiates sex and at one point would try to avoid kissing me during foreplay but would kiss me bye of the morning. He has talked about his past home and mentioned about trying to purchase a new home for us because he wants to give me something. I think he is reminiscing about the past and concerned about the future. He says he loves me and that I make him happy. He also mentioned about fixing up a camaro he has and he gets restless alot. Before we were married we talked about that neither one of us likes go all the time. He's mentioned that the clothes he has are old and had them for a while. He has gained weight. I believe it bothers him that I don't make alot more money than I do and he may contribute that to part of his thinking we can't afford a house someday. Also, he can see me naked and he tells me I pretty and sexy but he did not get turned on. I am thinking more about the emotional arousel than the physical. I have mentioned things to him and he has started being more attentive. I even had suspicions of him cheating but I know he would no do so and I did confront him. He told me that he would not becaused he feared God and he knew that I was the one. Anyways could he be dealing with male menopause? more

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